When One Gets Into Bad Company...

I'm not talking about the working company but friends. Friends are really important because it makes or breaks you.

I have a primary school mate whom I used to be very close to. She was my best friend and someone whom the class looked up to. She stood up among all of us for she was obedient and smart. A prefect, a teacher's pet, filial, helpful and unselfish. I remembered calling her every single day asking her to help me with my homework. There was no one at home to help me and my form teacher, Miss Sim, always gave us lots and lots of problem sums which was my weakest link. Once we had to do 100 problems and I clearly remembered how this friend of mine took the pain to tell me the answers on the phone (of cos some I can do la but I think alot 3/4 was her answer. =p). She would tell me to draw how many boxes for models, shade how many boxes etc without complains. She never once talked bad about me (you know in primary school alot of friend and dun friend problems and girls are very bitchy). When the PSLE results were out, as expected, she was one of the high flyer and went on to a well known girl school.

Time can bring someone closer, it can also bring someone apart and in this case, we grew apart. We had our own secondary school friends and she had her own but once in a while, we do meet up or write snail mails to each other. After Secondary 3, we almost did not contact anymore.

I heard from common friends that she did well in her O levels too and studied at another high profile Junior colleague along Bukit Timah road. A year later, I was told that she had dropped out of school and decided to work. Thanks to Friendster during those days, we got connected and I was amused that she looked completely different. From a chubby decent girl to a hot revealing Ah Lian. Then I began to hear news from our common friends that she got into bad company, knew some guys and became some party animal. Even that, we did not meet at all.

However, three years ago, we had a mini gathering with my primary school friends and she came. I felt distant from her. We are very different now. Topics are different, dressings are different and values are different. During the meet up, we chatted a little and I took up the courage to ask her why she quitted school. She said she had an opportunity to work and she was interested in it so she came out. But had thoughts about going to a private school to continue her studies. I never know if it ever happens.

Despite the change in her, I can still feel that she still maintained her good personality of being filial, unselfish and helpfulness. However, values have changed I guess.

That was the last I saw her but we remained connected via Facebook. About three years ago, she got wedded and I always see her posting on Facebook pictures of her and her hubby. No doubt they had married but to me, most of the pictures are indecent or too revealing which should not be the case for a person who is in their mid-twenties. I always thought that only young adults or teenagers would post such pictures like showing off cleavages after cleavages.

Anyway, just today, I visited her page after seeing the status feeds and found out that she had a new boyfriend already. The old was gone... Of cos, people would say I did not know what was going on so I cant conclude if she's at fault or not but nope, I'm not saying that she was at fault but more to the sympathetic fact she could be one of the high flyers in the commercial world if she had gone the correct way. No doubt she may think this is the best route for her and she is happy about it. But as an outsider, I just felt it was a pity. She had a very loving family, a smart brain a kind heart but just because of a mistake to drop out school, life became so different.

Seriously, how can one resist the pressure from bad friends during the young age? I dunno how I did it but I was quite lucky and I thank God that most of the friends in my life are pretty decent and do not have extreme habits.

Nevertheless, I wish her all the best and hope that she will not have much regrets in life.