Hell Parents

My colleague was passing a short essay written by a Primary 2 child (7 years old only lor) for us to read. After reading it, I went "oh my goodnessss" for the longest time. Knowing that for a Primary 2 kid, their vocabulary is very limited and usually, they will not be able to write proper stories within the first few months. Today, they were only made to write in short sentences using past tense. Ok, straight into the story...

The whole essay, the boy was talking about pornographic stuffs.... yes!!! You see it right... pornographic stuffs at such tender age...He gave a name to his character in the essay and said that the character, John, kissed a girl, hugged her, took out her clothes... John's eyes popped out (watched too much cartoon) upon seeing the girl's body and they kissed and had sex.... Tenses all correct but the content is way off... So my colleague was very puzzled on how this boy learned about such things. When questioned, he said that his older brother (which is also only Primary 3/4) would often discussed about it in their room. The brother who is older knows it's a topic not to be discussed with others but the little boy was not aware and wrote everything out in his essay. When parents were questioned, the truth came to light.

This horrible parents watched such shows/movies in front of the children!!! WTH rite?? It's really easier to instill good habits than to correct it. Even the slightest bad habit like crying to get things done, eating while talking is very hard to break and it must be cut from the root right from the start... Some parents think that the child will grow out of it when they are older but c'mon, we know that more bad habits will come when one gets older so things will only get worst... Now that the two boys are beiing exposed to such blue flims at such tender age, I really wondered what's in their head every now and then... Will they turn to some pervert in future? Sighz... The parents really have no common sense on this. They are really ruining the child. =(

Marriage Preparation Programme

Ben and I are believers of marriage courses and so we went to sign up for a group programme with Care Corner Counseling. we are so glad that we went for it. Of course, going for such courses do not guarantee happy fairy tale marriage but many potential conflict issues started to surface even before we are aware of it. Now we shall learn to avoid it. =)

It was a very good sharing because among the 5 couples, 1 was married and they shed some lights to the problems they had encounter through the 5 months marriage. We went through topics like communication, conflict management, in-law relationship, family of origin (really plays a part in the values and upbringing of your spouses), financial management and intimacy.

I love the part on In-laws and conflict management because I realised that Ben's way of solving comflict is so different from mine which I always intepret as 'heck-care' and defensive. However it seem that all of us have a few different ways of handling conflict. Ben is called the peace maker person and I'm more of a blamer. =p Also, the course brought up some issues that I never had the opportunity to bring it up because it might be sensitive to him. So in the discussion, everyone just shared freely and I think I can handle the in-laws better and he could do the same to my parents now! =) Anyway the course teaches us who and how to talk to your in-laws in terms of child management, house management etc. Eg: If your child misbehaves at the in-law place, who should take the discipline to lower the chance of conflict with the in-laws. Should you give in-laws the key to your home? Anyway, Ben said he might consider to call my parents once a week in future to just ask how are they. hehehe..

In the past, I used to tell him about some issues but he will give me the standard politically right answers to it. But after yesterday, he pondered on all the things I told him last time and understood where I'm coming from and why I'm making such statements. See... last time I talk about it, it seems like it's nothing important but because the counsellor talked about it, he thinks it makes sense! Hahaha.. But whatever it is, so long he got the points, I'm glad already =)

We are left with the last session, an individual session with the counsellor to analysize our family of origins, habits, personality etc. Those who are toying with the idea of going or not going, just go... it's all worth it really.

Weak Determination

Waaaaaa laooooooo, my facial package will end in another 2 times and I was so determined not to sign again because it was a little too far for me. So I knew the beautician will try to talk me in. Before that I've already prepared myself to REJECT but in the end, I failed miserably! Arghhhhh!!!! Crap~~~ What happened to me? I used to be able to reject 101 sales talk from spa packages, facial etc but now my determination is getting weaker as I age... Now I'm giving myself 101 reason to console that it will be super good. -_-""" The next time they ask me to sign again, I shall say I'm migrating... That's a good way... Sighzzzz

Just For Laugh

My primary 1 kids...

Me: Gabriel, what do you do during weekends?
Gabriel: I go to the church and sing. I love to sing like a concert.
Me: Ok so what songs do you sing? Can you sing for me?
Gabriel paused very very long so I tried to help...
Me: Oh, is it the song that goes "Jesus loves me yes I know...."
Gabriel: No Miss Ho. That's baby song. I dun sing baby songs.
Me: -_-"""

PS: This is not a baby song! That is a song for children in Sunday school.

Me: Why are you not eating your Char Siew Bun?
(We catered food for them for first 2 weeks)
Sandeep: I dun like to eat this fruit. I've never eaten before this fruit.
Me: -_-"""

PS: Explained what that was and still he threw it away.

My colleague in chinese: 为设么你不吃？(Why are you not eating your food too?)
Aryton (It's read as A-ton): Because wo bu ai. (In a slang)
Colleague: huh?
Aryton: wo bu ai (I dun love)

PS: children these days dunno chinese.. they literally translate it from English.

Jia Min: When are you getting married?
Me: Why? Who said I'm getting married?
Jia Min: You have a ring!
Samantha: That means she's married already.
Jia Min: No! That's a proposal ring. Not a marriage ring. Means the bf propose and she must say yes then she can wear the proposal ring!
Me: Waaaaa.... how did you know about all these.. such a busybody...
Jia Min: So when are you going for honey moon?
Me: No time.
Jia Min: Just take leave la and go.

PS: they are growing up way too fast! Who taught them about proposal ring and marriage ring???

A Special Boy =)

Ok. Firstly, this post is not about Ben. =p

I've met a special boy in my Primary 1 cohort this year. Although he's not in my class but I love to talk to him every day because honestly, I do feel a little burdened whenever his name is mentioned. This boy has good looks, very adorable and cute. Although he's in Primary 1, he is very confident and daring to speak. I remembered him calling my colleague 'Auntie' when he first met her. But I guess God is fair... He is special... Literally special. If you watched the show "Breakout" and knows who Zou Jie Ming is, yes, Xavier is exactly the same. He is autistic.

But to a normal person, one may think that he's perfectly normal. He can carry out a conversation with you. Makes you laugh and even talks to his friends. But the difference comes in when you change his routine or take away his things. He will keep repeating himself till you give him that item and in order to fix this, we have to scold and be very firm towards him and he will start to calm down with tears in his eyes, looking at you directly into yours... very enduring isnt it? Oh well, he can behave like that as a child but I really dunno how can this reality world accept him when he is all grown up.

Xavier has a very pretty and hip mother who seemed to teach her son very well. He has good table manners and is polite too. After eating, he will clean the table and clears away all the rice on the table patiently. When you talk to him, he will want to hold your hand and will look into your eyes. However, perhaps it is also due to the fact that the mum is a single mother, Xavier seemed to listen to instructions from the female better and will tend to want hugs or hold the hands of the female teachers. It's ok now but again when he's older, I dunno if he will ween this habit off.

Today, my colleague, the fiercest male teacher scolded him for misbehaving as he refused to stand straight during the national athem. He refused to listen to my colleague and tears swelled up in his eyes yet he still refused to listen and swing his arms around during the athem. However another female colleague went to him and gentlely talked to him, he was fine immediately.

A few days ago, he asked me what's my name and started a conversation in his slang where I assumed, he learns from the cartoons... Today, he asked what's my age... Funny rite? Although he's only 7 years old, his english standard has already reached that of Primary 4 and his Maths is the standard of a Primary 2 child. Smart rite? that's why he can hold a decent conversation with the adults. And he has a sense of morale too. When videos of people involved in accidents are played during assembly, instead of laughing which is totally sick, he put his hands over his face, as if he's watching a horror movie. At least he knows it's something negative...

Because of him, I started to read up more about Austistic kids because I want to know the cause of it. I've seen too many in my school recently. Unfortunately, I found out that stastics show that since 1980s, the number has increased. This could be due to the polluted environment and food we eat. There is no definite cause so you cannot really prevent it and worst, you will not know if the child is austistic till about 3 years old. this is very scary. There is a big spectrum of it and these children can either be the super smarts or the super CMI. Of course those in the main stream schools are mildly austistic and usually the high functioning ones.

Seriously, smart as he is, I really dunno how the real world can accept him in future. No one will want to employ special people. =( If I have money, I would open a company to employ only austistic people in future. They are very hardworking, smart and haf excellent memories. the only thing is I have to deal with their temper...

I pray that the society will learn more about such people and give them a chance in life. As Ben always say, because they looked normal (usually very good looking really), people have high expectation of them and when they cannot perform, they will be eliminated. Sometimes I wonder, so do the parents wants their austistic kids to look abnormal so that people have lower expectation of that (like those mentally disabled) or do they rather have a normal looking kid? What say you? Dillemma isnt it? Of cos, I hope that all my friends will have healthy and normal children la. =)

I wish Xavier all the best in his life. I hope this boy will grow up to be a useful person. anyway, a glimsp of him =p

See... Refused to sit at the correct position again... But still looking so angelic. =)

Happy New Year 2011

Another year has passed. Happy New Year to all!

I think I just realised that my resolution of the year is to learn how to manage expectations. Manage expectations of myself,of others and even the environment.

At times I realised I expected too much from myself and others and then I get very dissappointed & frustrated when the target is not met. So this year, I need to re-adjust my measurement to lessen the frustrations.

Anyway, nothing much to complain nor praise so... Happy 2011 peeps!

Happily Ever After - Ros

December is a month full of weddings and festives. And it is becos of Ros' wedding that I began to eat and gorge myself ever since 23rd December. Haha!

Anyway, another secondary school buddy has joined the 'Mrs' club and it was a great experience for me to see the cultures and norms of how Muslim prepares the whole wedding. And boy, whoever said that Malay weddings are cheap needs to get a life because nothing looks cheap to me after being there with her for 3 days...

Anyway, Ros was also my secondary school friends since Sec 1. We were in the same class for the first two years before we were split up but despite that, we were still very close friends because we were in the same CCAs throughout. We were girl guides and prefects thus many events and occasions would need us to collaborate and get ideas from each other.

I remembered the Backstreet Boys days where this lady would go mad about Kevin (Is that his name?) and kept saying that this man is her husband.. Hello babe, your husband is not Reza la. Not Kevin or Kelvin. And although I'm not a fan of the boy band, her constant singing has so much impact on us that till now, I can still sing some of their songs. When we need to prepare for Prefect's Camp, Teachers' Day, Prefect's Nite blah blah, we cannot run away with backstreet boys performances. Oh yeah, N'Sync too! Almost forgot that. And she's a great dancer so she will choreographed the dance steps and all the rest of us will learn and perform it on stage. We had fun as always. Back then she was living in Dover and I was at Holland so we could go home together from the old school. Then she shifted to Woodlands and me to Bukit Panjang and so we could still go home together. haha.. Babe, you are so sticky :p

So we continued our friendship despite being in different polys. I still share my happiness and unhappiness with her every now and then. Be it family, friends or relationship. All these years, she knew my darkest secrets besides Zhiwei and Kail. Not that I have alot of dark secrets though. :p

So Ros is happily married now on 25th December and I can see how happy and excited she was throughout the preparation days. Kaili, Tze Pin and me were honoured to help her out throughout the event and we wanted to make it as flawless and memorable for her too. =)

Babe, wishing you all the best and I know you look forward to many wonderful years ahead with Reza and we are really excited for your life too. Once again, congratulations, from the bottom of my heart! =D